Heeeeelp ……I am moving!!!

Yesterday post i English

I have lived here for 13 years….

Since my divorce

It was very hard to move out of my childrens childhood home…

Their father stayed there so of course the children felt more at home there…

For å Long time it was like they were guests in my house…

Even though they stayed there every other week…

But it was like that for me to…

The house didnt feel like my house..

It was someone elses and I was just borrowing it

But during the years I have done a lot of renovation both inside the house and the outside area

Gotten to know some great neighbours wich I have had a lot of fun with

And they have helped me so much with my motorcycle and everything else…

So slowly this has become my new home

Some of my kids has also chosen to live full time here for longer periodes..

Everything worked out in the end 😊

BUT NOW I AM MOVING OUT….

It is sad, scary and not an easy choice to make…

But my boyfriends house is his childhood home…

It has also a perfect location

The perfect size for the two of us..

And it is the area were our closest friends live.

And the view is magnificent!!

So the decision is made…..but it is with a heavy heart I am doing it…

My plan is to sell the house during this spring….

So if you know someone who wants a good place to live….

This is a fantastic place…

Just look at this view;

It is  going to be a busy spring, with both selling my house and full renovation of the house we are moving in to…

But I am really looking forward to that!!!

I love  busy days with lots of physical labour!! That’s when I feel alive😊

Updates on sale, moving and renovation will come during the spring….

I wish you all a wonderful week coming up

                                 ❤ ❤ ❤

THANK YOU!!!

Todays post in English

Thank you so much for my 2 eyes

With them I can see the natures beautiful colors, great mountains and sunset that takes my breath away..

With them I have been able to admire my wonderful children grow up:

Sometimes I let them rest at my good looking boyfriend:

Other times they are glowing with love when our eyes meet

With them I can execute my work with precision and awareness;

With them I can follow my golfball when I hit it far away…

and I do hit it far….😁😁🏌🏌

With them I have read tonns of books and used them critically on my own writings..

With them I can detect danger…

….show my friends that I care

…..see others pain and express compassion and empathy

…..see wrongs and unjustice

With them I can express anger, love and happiness

With them I can see the good in people:

With them I can cry both in sorrow and in joy

And when I am tired and close them….they let me rest

 BUT!!

What has happened these last years???

Why do they refuse to read small letters?

Why does everything get blury up close???

I guess I have to except that my eyes also gets tired….

…tired from everything that I have seen and read..

So I guess I have to let them rest a bit…

Luckily I look pretty good in the aids provided 😁😁😁

Thank you so much for my eyes and all the beauty they have – and will see!!!

I wish you all a wonderful rest of the week

…..and keep your eyes open for those beautiful everyday moments

 

                                     ❤❤❤

A PERFECT SUNDAY!

Todays post in English

The day started early

Went running with my sweet daughter…

who also has sign up for the Bergen City half marathon 🙂

We ran 11 km of the course, the hardest part with all the steepest slopes..

and we felt very proud afterwards…

No matter what you do, it is who you are doing it with that really matters….

Quality time with «Limpan» makes me very happy ❤

I gave her the nickname Limpan after a weekend trip to Stockholm were I learned that it meant white bread in Sweden. As a child she would never eat bread with»lumps» in them. 😉

I was so full of energy after this perfect morning with my daughter that I continued to run to my car ( I had planned to take the bus) I felt super-good!

And than it was straight to the beach for my weekly swim – never a Sunday without 🙂 🙂 🙂

And now I have had a nice shower, eaten dinner and there is fire in the fireplace….

My boyfriend is waiting on the couch….so now it is time for our quality time

A perfect Sunday!!!

LIFE IS WONDERFUL AT DAYS LIKE THIS…

I WISH YOU ALL A GREAT WEEK COMING UP

Get some quality time in there!!

❤ ❤ ❤

GREAT EXERCISE AT AKERSHUS FORTRESS

Todays post in English

The alarm wakes me at 04.00 am

The taxi arrives at 04.45 am

At the airport this nice greeting from a Starbucks employee makes me smile for the first time this morning. ( even though my name is spelled wrong) 🙂

The plane departure at 06.10 am

From rainy Bergen

«Good morning winter Oslo»

Time for the certification of our NOR EMT (= Norwegian Emergency Medical team)

We meet up precisely 08.00 am at Thon airport hotel for extradition of our personal equipment- hereby referred to as; PE. ( from now on its only military jargons that applies) 🙂

And than we were off to our camp location:

AKERSHUS FORTRESS

All day, evening and some of the night we spent building the camp:

Totally exhausted we crawl into our sleeping bags at 01.30 am

I am so grateful that I don’t have guard duty this night ( I have been awake for nearly 22 hours by this time)

But my guard duty comes soon enough – the next night from 04.00 – 05.00 am

Even though I am very tired I actually enjoy the beautiful moonlight and the fact that I actually know how to handle the «heater» for the tents and the power units. Witch I learned day 2.

At this time feel pretty good about my self 🙂

Time is of the essence and the next morning we realize that we have to hurry…

The big exercise starts at 11.30 am day 3

representatives from WHO and EU is coming

We are going to be certified to travel anywhere in the world were there is a catastrophe, to help people in need, with our transportable hospital/clinic . ( our worst case scenario not get certified…)

The tents are up, but the clinic inside the tents are far from ready…

And we work very hard for many hours to get it ready…

 

WILL IT GET DONE??????

Read my next blog post on Saturday and I will tell you all about the exercise and the result.

Have a wonderful week everybody!!

❤ ❤ ❤

 

 

SUCK IT UP!!!

The English version of yesterdays post

I often tell my self that….

When I am in pain..

or upset…

when life dosent go my way

It helps!!

like a strict teacher that tells me to pull my self together…

Or like a hysteric person needing a slap in the face to calm down

Needs to wake up

to restart

This is something I have told my kids many times as well

 «Can not»

«dont dare»

«will fail»

Its all in you head!

You just have to decide that:

«I can do this!»

«I will succeed»

«Of course I can!!»

«No mountain high enough!»

When my daughter was little and hurt her self while playing, she always would get so mad at me afterwards;

«You always say; it will be fine! – It is ok» But it isn`t!! It hurts!!»

And of course she was right, it did hurt! But she was fine as well!

What was I supposed to do?

Get hysterical because of some blood on my daughters knee?

I am sure that would upset her more….

And if they kept it going for a long while, I was not the most  patient one.

I did not use the phrase «Suck it up» – but that is what I was thinking….

Instead I would say something as:

Come on, its over now. Put on a smile and some sneakers and run along…»

I am convinced that we should not spoil and pamper our children, the rest of the world wont follow up on that.. and that might come as a bit of a shock to them…..

Here are some other truths that we should prepare our children for;

LIFE IS NOT FAIR!!

Thats just how it is

Some will get more money for graduation than you!

You will think that some are prettier than you – some are smarter – some more popular.

And some win the big Lottery….

But you my sweet child are on the winning side!

Instead of looking at everyone that has more than you – turn to the world and see all of them that have so much less….

Life is unfair and YOU are the winner of the big lottery!!

NOT EVERYONE LOVES YOU NO MATTER HOW YOU BEHAVE!

Maybe your parents think you are just adorable even when you are at your most charmless behavior.

BUT sweetie, the rest of us doesn’t!!

Many parents do their children a great disservice by always letting them have their way and never give any consequences for bad behavior.

They «love» their children so much that they just can not bear to deny them anything, nor give them sensible boundaries…

BUT what does a love like that do FOR the child??

Well they often turn out to be charmless «monsters» that nobody likes….AND that is something the child pick up on…

EVERYTHING IS NOT GOING TO BE OK ….

«Everything is gonna be alright» sings av well known artist..

That is just not true!

We have to teach our children that not everything in life turns out the way we planned…

We have to prepare them for disappointments….

We are so engage in solving all our children`s problems, and that makes them incompetent in solving their own.

They are so use to running to mom or dad with every little issue….

«Thought helplessness» was a concept I heard about in nursing school. The danger of being to helpful while helping senior citizens or handicapped people with task they actually would manage themselves if we only gave them enough time…

We are in danger of doing the same to our children….

It isn`t love to rob our children of the capability to solve their own problems

LIFE ISNT ONLY ORGASMS, THERE HAS TO BE FUCKING AS WELL!

Many children gets everything so easy these days

They dont have to wait for Christmas or their birthday to get the toy they wish for….

Saturday candy has turned into Tuesday chocolate and Wednesday treat…

I remember the joy of saving up for something, maybe for a long time and then finally going to the store to buy it.

For my own money!!

Or wish for something for Christmas and not knowing if you would get it or not , the excitement and joy when opening the gift – or the disappointment when you were told it was to expensive this year….

Even better when you finally got it!

 

Or buying my first car, a wreck – BUT MY OWN!!!

Bought for my money…..THAT feeling is never achieved if you get everything you wish for all the time

When you dont work for it, the joy is short term…

Like an orgasm…..we dont want to miss out on what happens before do we??

 

PARENTS FAIL ALL THE TIME

Most of us do everything with the best intentions

often based on how out own upbringing was…

We either copy our parents – or we want to do everything different and better…

Either way – we are not perfect!

I always told my children;

YOU CAN BE WHATEVER YOU WANT – as long as you want it bad enough…

I wanted to give them faith in them selves

Support them whatever they did in life…

 

I now see that there can be a lot of pressure in that statement as well

What if you dont succeed with what you want?

Is that because you didnt want it bad enough??

Or what if you dont know what you want to do?

SOME MOUNTAINS ARE ACTUALLY TO HIGH TO CLIMB…

It is not easy being a parent

it is not easy bringing up children

But doing our very best – has to be a good thing right?

One thing is for sure, there is nothing I am more proud of than my 4 children.

And despite my flaws and mistakes as a mother – I know they love me to ❤

 

I WISH YOU ALL A WONDERFUL WEEK WITH LOTS OF UNCONDITIONAL LOVE

❤ ❤ ❤

Biggest bitch ever!!!

Todays post in English

Yes I can be some times…

Luckily my boyfriend forgives faster than the rain falls in Bergen 🙂

…..and let me tell you; that is damn fast!!

 

And what was the reason for my behavior??

GOLF 😦

Or more precise my failed attempt to play golf ….

I have been struggling with the game for a long periode now…

and a couple of weeks ago I just snapped completely 😦

I was ready to sell my golf clubs

….all golf vacation plans were on hold

and I cursed every hour spent on the golf course…

My poor boyfriend…

He saw the long awaited golf vacation disappear in front of him…

as his attempts to comfort or support me failed completely..

SHAME ON ME!!!

But I did manage to pull my self together,

and at the same time my son Mats came to my ( our 🙂 ) rescue yet again 🙂

He is the best golf trainer in the world – at least for me!!

He sees everything I do wrong

and he knows exactly what to do to make me change things..

So after hours on the training range, where I hit ball after ball under his instructions – I finally got it again… 🙂

We than went to Meland golf resort ( right outside Bergen) and I had a marvelous first round!!!

I got a par put ( that means I got the ball in the hole in the right amount of shots as if I didn’t have any handicap at all) And I was the only one who manage that on that round!

 

                               «the par put»

Of course I celebrated with a beer after the round 🙂

The day after we went to Voss ( up in the mountain , approximately 1,5 hour from where I live) And I played better than I have for a long time!!

I have to say that I appreciate so much the patience that my son Mats, his buddy Jens and my boyfriend are showing me… ( all 3 in the picture)

They support – help – boast and never makes me feel that I am a shitty player ( wich I am sometimes)

And when I do snapp and yell words that a mother never should yell in front of her son or the friend of her son – they laugh out loud…..and thats all right 🙂

because right now I am jumping with joy and I am super ready for golf playing yet again…

I have been told that tis is the most frustrating game of all – and YES it is!!

But it is also so much fun when you do well!!

The bitch is put back in the closet and back is the sweet, nice and good girlfriend….

and now the plans are set!!

Saturday we re leaving for Spain and Alende golf club

We will stay here for a week – thank you Jens for suggesting it! 🙂 🙂

after a week we will stay with family who owns a house not far from there 🙂

Thanks for the hospitality! we are so looking forward to it!

We are looking forward to sun – heat – golf and vacation

❤ ❤ ❤

Update will come!!

 

 

 

Having a bad hair-day????

Todays post in English

My hair grows incredible fast

it has always been like that

As a teenager I was so afraid to eksperiment with different hairstyles

If I cut it short one summer

it would be just as long the next if I wanted it to

I loved to change

try all sorts of colors

not all my project was a success…..

Today I was planning to give you a tour of all my hairstyles from the beginning right up to today…

 

My first hairstyle, still untouched by human hands….

The first year of my life, my mother had a strong impact on how I looked…

I wonder what she was thinking….

I can understand why I wouldn’t smile on this photo…maybe my brother, ( who is smiling beside me) is the one who cut my hair??

Side parting of the century and look at the pattern of the dress!!!

At the small village where I lived my first years,

there was a hairdresser who had her salong in the basement of her house,

She cut the hair of all the kids in the area

Which was fortunate actually….

I wouldn’t want to be the only one showing up for school wit this hairstyle…….

OMG……

Getting older, I finally got to choose my hairstyle my self and I wanted it long…

notice the curtains in the picture on the left…

 

The hair was pretty long after a while….

But then I got bored with it, and cut it off…

And then it was time for my confirmation…..

Again my mother took me to the hairdresser

again someone else was deciding my hairstyle….

 

No comment….

I was a foreign exchange studen in the US and of course I had to get my high school picture taken..

I didn’t trust any hairdresser in the US

So I didn’t cut my hair that year

as a result my hair was pretty long when I returned home

and at that time curls ( hair perming) were quite popular

And the long hair stayed for some years – in different styles

But than I got bored with it again

and I cut it short…

I went from hair to the middle of my back – to very short and orange….my boyfriend didn’t even know I was going to the hairdresser……and he cried when I go home…

The short hair stayed with me for a while and also came in many different styles….

 

Suddenly I got tired of it

and lucky me

it grew back very fast

and than it was long again

 

I repeated the success of cutting it very short when I it was long. one more time…

At that time it wasn’t only my boyfriend who was crying…

One of my sons, who was 7 at the time, sat outside our house crying his eyes out

«What has happened» someone asked him

And my son replied;

«My mom is bald»

The later years I have varied between long – half long and short hair….

ETTER

I may not eksperiment as much as I did right now….

but there are other ways to change your hairstyle

It is just as fun, and not as lasting…

 

Right now my hair is pretty long, but who knows? It can be short before you know it….

I WISH YOU ALL » A GOOD HAIR – DAY»

❤ ❤ ❤

 

 

 

 

 

YES!!! IT FINALLY HAPPENED!!

Todays post in English

It started today

or Wednesday actually…

finally me, I thought

I have been waiting for soooo long…

I am afraid its going to be over to quickly

that the longing will be back in an instance

I will hold on tight

refuse to let you go

not sleep

to get more out of you

my plans exceeds the hours I have a thousand times

It is always like that….

 

I WANT HEAT

so much heat that I have to stay in front of the aircondition to cool down

I WANT SAND BETWEEN MY TOES

I WANT WAVES

CLIMB HIGH MOUNTAINS

PLAY INSANELY GOOD GOLF

……at least try..

I WANT TO ENJOY THE SILENCE

AND SPEND TIME WITH GOOD FRIENDS

MAYBE A LONGER TRIP ON MY BIKE..

 

AND SPEND SOME TIME WITH MY CHILDREN

EAT DELICIOUS FOOD

AND DRINK WINE AS THE SUNSET

 

SPEND TIME WITH THE BEST BOYFRIEND IN THE WORLD

 

 

YEP – I THINK THIS VACATION WILL BE PERFECT!

….but it might be a bit short due to all my plans ….

HAVE A GREAT WEEKEND EVERYBODY

❤ ❤ ❤

 

A «homo» that doesn’t work!

Todays post in English

I read a post the other day, about how children are affected by our prejudices….

BECAUSE WE ALL DO HAVE THEM!!

Children come into this world not knowing right from wrong…

not knowing what’s normal or not..

It is the people around them that tells them this

either their parents

older siblings

grandparents

teachers

daycare personnel

neighbours

aunts

uncles

or complete strangers that state their meanings on the street, in media or at the store..

We are ALL responsible for what we say and we should ALL be aware of the huge impact we have on children’s mindset…

Here is an example of how different children thinks and perceives their surroundings compared to adults – this story is 13 years old:

My youngest daughter; Juni started school and was put in the same class as Simen who are adopted from Korea. Simen has a younger sister; Louise who is also adopted from the same country. I addition the parents has an biological daughter; Malene who is the oldest of the 3. We know the hole family because they live near by and Malene also is in the same class as my older daughter Sanne. One of the first day at school Juni comes home bursting with news!!:

«SIMEN IS ADOPTED!!!» she called out triumphantly…

I could almost read her thinking: «THAT is something you guys didn’t now!!!

I was a little perplex and answered; «but we all knew that already??»

«NO!!» She called out indignantly, «Nobody told me that!!»

«But cant you see that he looks different than you?» I replied carefully..

She just stared back at me looking like a question mark. I went on and explained that Simen and Louisa looked a little different than us because they had what we called an Asian look. And my daughter cut me off by shouting:

«IS LOUISE ALSO ADOPTED???»she stopped for a second or so and continued: «MALENE AS WELL???»

Again I tried to ask her if she couldn’t se the difference between Malene and the other siblings and of course she did!! Just like SHE didn’t look anything like her own brothers or sister!!

I was pretty surprized – because I was so sure that she already knew this – even though we might never have discussed it – at least I thought she would recognize the different looks…….at the same time it was so liberating to experience how little children care or notice differences – or the color of our skin…

But back to the heading…

I see my self as an unprejudiced person – but not all prejudices is negative or badly intended..It is just a mistake that we do when we assume, prejugde or generalize before getting to know… it can be ment as a positive comment as well:

All African American has an awesome rhythmic sense… ( not always true I think)

Or in a negative:

All muslimes are terrorist ( far from true as well!)

It has been important to me that my children  doesn’t grow up to be prejudiced persons and I have always talked to them about being open and including. That it is allowed to not like someone if they treat you badly, but that it is not OK to not like someone justbecause they are different…

The text in the picture; Marriage for everyone. Greatest of all is love.

When my oldest son came home at the age of 7 and asked me what a » fucking homo» was ( some older kids at school had called each other that, he said), I had to sit down and have a talk with him.

I explained that he could not use the word fuck, because it was a bad word and it didn’t belong together wit any other words.. And than I explained that a homo or a homosexual was to people of the same gender that fell in love. Either 2 men being boyfriends, living together/married or 2 woman.

My son who was at the age were all girls was the worst, said quickly;

«Than I am a homo, because I want to live with Anders ( his best friend at the time) when I grow up!»

«Yes, you can if you both want to when you grow up» I replied.

It didn’t turn out that way 🙂 It turned out to be a Caroline instead… 🙂

…..but I did get some bonus-children after a while and my step son turned out to be gay.. We had some funny episodes ( well they are funny retrospective – at that time it was serous enough) when he was younger. He would call my other son a homo when he was mad at him…. Of course he got in trouble for that. Non of my children were allowed to use homo as an insult word. He got a long speech were I told him that homosexuals and hetrosexuals were equals and that he should not use the word in an negative way…

When he as a 15 year old boy «came out » I was the first he told. When I asked him later why? He replied:

«You are the only one I know that has less prejudices against homosexuals than I do»

I was very moved and happy by his answer 🙂

But now I am approaching the core of this topic….because it turns out that I DO have prejudices as well..

I actually was supriced when I learned that he was gay…because I dint think he had any of the typical gay manner ( talk about generalizing..:(

……but my dear stepson didn’t seem to be the typical gay boy. He had no sense in fashion, his room looked like a flee marked ( he collected everything!! – at one time he had 7 typewriters…non of them worked…) and he wasn’t particularly interested in interior design or flowers for that matter….

YES I KNOW THIS IS VERY GENERALIZING – I AM TRYING TO RIDICULE MYE SELF..

And I have many homosexual friends that don’t fit this description as well.

But to be honest that is what I was thinking…

It was such a good lesson for me to see my self in a different light – and to realize that even if I try to be unprejudiced I do prejudge from time to time – not necessarily in a negative way – but still…

So I had to come off my high horse and admit that I do prejudge sometimes..

Luckily I do not take my self so serious that I can’t make jokes about myself – and it is quite al right that others do as well…..

 

My stepson know me so well  – so we always kid around….

I refer to him as cinderella and my self as the evil step mother….

And I use to say that with a homosexual son I would think he would be able to help me with decorating the house , fixing my hair or help me pick out outfits….. but NO:

Typical!!! We got our self a homo that doesn’t work 🙂

I HOPE I DONT OFFEND ANYBODY BY OUR INTERNAL JOKE – IT IS MORE ON ME THAN ON ANYBODY ELSE… – MY STEPSON DOESNT GET OFFENDEN BY IT AT ALL

I WISH YOUN ALL A WEDNESDAY FILLED WITH ANY KIND OF LOVE –

GREATEST OF ALL IS LOVE

❤ ❤ ❤

 

 

 

 

W

I am so cool some times…

Todays post in English

I was what you would call a pretty wild teenager

I liked to live life to the fullest –  party and have fun

we went to dance arrangement out in the countryside looong before we were old enough

We just went down to the pier, to ask the older boys with cars, if we could get a ride

And we always did 🙂

I travveled to the Canary Islands with friends when I was 16 years old -incredible that my mother would let me!!

«But we could always trust you» she says to her defence

Nooooot!

There were a lot of home alone parties….

We went out in the city with borrowed Identity…

There were big conserts in Copenhagen, and different cities in Norway

I traveled to the US as a foreign exchange student……and tried out some things there…

I moved to Copenhagen for a while….and tried out some things there…

I had orange, red and white hair  – I had afro, hedgehog, super long and super short hair.

I shaved off my hair just to prove to a teacher that I dared…

 

Than I became a mother and pulled myself together….

In 7 years I had 4 children – all before I turned 29

YES; as I have said before – it was quite busy…

It so strange how we can totally let go of our self for some time – to fully concentrate on taking care of others..

AND FURTHER MORE – LOVING IT

But that is what we do as parents

Suddenly nothing is as important as the little ones at home

But as they grow older it all stabilizes

and you can prioritize yourself a little bit again

Thank God!

Or we would be pretty boring as humans…

«You are so much younger and cooler than the other moms,» my oldest son said to me when he started school 

Of course I was – I was just a baby when I got him!!!

When my little one started school I wasn’t the youngest of the moms anymore…

But she still thought I was cool – especially when I picked her up at school with my Motor cycle.

THE TRADITIONAL MOM?

Maybe I am not;

I dont iron, I am no wonder in the kitchen, my garden is nothing to brag about, I am divorce X2, I can scream pretty loud when angry, I use profanity from time to time, sometime I make a fool of myself, and I have many flaws..

BUT SOMETIMES I AM PRETTY COOL

I can fix almost everything in the house – I build walls – I can cast, paint, put up wallpaper, fix the electricity, I do tiling and flooring…

It is not a thing I wouldn’t help my kids with – If I know how –

and I most often do! 🙂

YES! I have a huge self-confident monster on my shoulder 🙂

I LOVE SPEED!!

• I DIG to ride the roller coaster – last time me and my youngest went to a fair in Oslo, she got tired way before me and sat down with the other parents who were waiting for their kids – while I took a couple of rides more…

• I love to ski – very fast I might add. I have taught all my children how to ski – but I do believe that at least my boys will ski faster than me now…

I love my Kawasaki

And some times I drive a little fast…

• I love to dress up for carnival or other theme parties and I have always engaged myself in the kids dress up events – and they never lacked anything in that department…

• I have started to play golf – after my sons request  – and now we have a mutual interest and activity!

I am an ice swimmer

• I am not afraid to try something new  – I love a challenge
  
  

  

  

  

   

  So yes!!!

I do think I am pretty awesome and cool sometimes – but I don’t know if my kids agree….

Is that important???

NOPE!

The only thing that matters to me is that they know  I love them more than anything else and that there isn’t a thing I wouldn’t do for them!!

I WISH YOU ALL A WONDERFULL WEEKEND!!

❤ ❤ ❤